INFP - Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving

"Still Waters Run Deep"

I value inner harmony above all else. Sensitive, idealistic and loyal, I have a strong sense of honor concerning my personal values and am often motivated by deep belief or by devotion to a cause I feel is worthy.

I am interested in possibilities beyond what is already known and focus most of my energy on my dreams and visions. Open-minded, curious and insightful, I often have excellent long-range vision. In day-to-day matters I am usually flexible, tolerant and adaptable, but I am very firm about my inner loyalties and set very high—in fact, nearly impossible—standards for myself.

I have many ideals and loyalties that keep me occupied. I am deeply committed to whatever I choose to undertake and I tend to undertake too much but somehow get everything done. 

Although I demonstrate cool reserve on the outside, I care deeply inside. I am compassionate, sympathetic, understanding and very sensitive to the feelings of others. I avoid conflict and am not interested in impressing or dominating others unless my values are at stake. Often I prefer to communicate my feelings in writing, rather than orally. When I am persuading others of the importance of my ideals, I can be most convincing.

I seldom express the intensity of my feelings and often appear reticent and calm. However, once I know someone, I am enthusiastic and warm. I am friendly, but tend to avoid superficial socializing. I treasure people who take the time to understand my goals and values.


Since logic is not a priority for me, I sometimes make errors of fact and can be unaware that I am being illogical. When my dreams become out of touch with reality, others may see me as flighty and mystical. I do well to ask the advice of more practical people to find out if my ideas are workable and useful in the real world.

Because I am so committed to my own ideals, I have a tendency to overlook other points of view and can sometimes be rigid. I am not particularly interested in physical surroundings and often am so busy that I fail to notice what is happening around me.

I may reflect on an idea much longer than is really necessary to begin a project. My perfectionist tendencies can lead me to refine and polish my ideas for so long that I never share them. This is dangerous, since it is important for me to find ways of expressing my ideas. To keep from getting discouraged, I need to work toward becoming more action-oriented.

I am so emotionally entangled in my undertakings that I am very sensitive to criticism. To complicate things further, I tend to demand too much of myself as I aspire to my own impossibly high standards. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy, even though I in fact, am capable of accomplishing a great deal. When I am disappointed, I tend to become negative about everything around me. Trying to develop more objectivity about my projects will help keep me less vulnerable to both criticism and disappointment.

Because I tend to try to please many people at the same time, it can be hard for me to stand up for an unpopular position. I hesitate to criticize others and I have a hard time saying no. When I don’t express my negative opinions about ideas or plans; others can be misled into thinking that I agree with them. I need to develop more assertiveness, and can benefit from learning how to offer honest criticism of others when needed.



-Thoughtfulness and the ability to focus on one issue or idea in depth
-Eagerness to “think outside the box” and consider new possibilities
-Deep commitment to work I believe in
-Natural curiosity and skill for getting the information I need
-Ability to see the big picture and to see implications of actions and ideas
-Perceptiveness about peoples needs and motivations
-Adaptability; I can shift gears and change directions quickly
-Ability to work extremely well with people one-on-one

-Ability to work well alone if necessary


-Need to control projects or I may lose interest
-Tendency toward disorganization and difficulty setting priorities
-Difficulty working on projects that conflict with my values
-Reluctance to follow traditional ways of doing things
-Natural idealism, which may present me from having realistic expectation
-Dislike of doing things in traditional or routine ways
-Difficulty working in competitive or tension-filled environments
-Lack of discipline about attending to and following through on important details
-Impatience working with structures or people who are too rigid
-Tendency to be unrealistic about how long things take
-Reluctance to discipline direct-reports and criticize others


1. Develop realistic expectations

2. Learn to value compromise

3. Don't take things so personally


-Realize that finding the right opportunity takes more time that I expect or wish. Paying attention to the facts of the situation and including them in my vision of the right choice will make me more efficient.
-I may have to decide to compromise some of my less central personal values from time to time. There may not be a “perfect” opportunity for me, at least not at this time. Learning when to compromise on the less critical points is a valuable lesson for me.


-Take constructive criticism and feedback as they are intended. Relying on the support and encouragement of friends and family can help me avoid the tendency to become discouraged when things seem difficult.
-Try to suspend the tendency to become self-critical if I face rejection or failure. Make it a personal challenge to rise to the occasion and see it as an obstacle to overcome.
-Bear in mind that many people offer criticism in a very objective fashion and expect that I will take it as it was intended. Try to look at it as constructive criticism and use the knowledge to improve my approach.


-Try not to make important decisions relying exclusively on my personal feelings. Get input from trusted, more objective friends.
-Take a break from the situation to think more clearly about it. Imagine what might be the logical cause and effect of my choices to I will have a more balanced picture.


-Take charge of my opportunities by eliminating less desirable options rather than waiting so long that more attractive options are eliminated for me. I may find the whole process less overwhelming if I remove the possibilities that don’t fit with my most important criteria for satisfaction.
-Don’t spend so much time in reflection that I leave no time for action. Develop a timetable and stick with it. Remember that getting started is often the hardest part, but once I do, I gain momentum from my actions.


-Use time management techniques to be sure I get things done on time. People will judge me on how well I follow through with commitments.
-Beware that I am naturally prone to perfectionism, which may delay me from completing tasks, hoping to find some way to improve them.


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